Yes, that is not an unusual situation at all. Some directors are very good at describing what they want and quite a few are like yours.. I don't agree with fuzzfilth, a good director knows quite bit about music and has heard a lot of it! When a director without music skills happens to me I usually end up with trying to be (even) better with my wording in discussions and discussing much more than I really like. I try to test their wording and find cracks in their argumentation. I sometimes apologize for not understanding (although I understand very well) and try to squeeze a reference track out of him/her. I try to find a way for them to commit, not to make me test rabbit.. Depending on the director I also sometimes make a point of the lack of similarities of the reference and what they actually want. I think you will find that even the top scorers face this all the time and you kind of have to suck it up and remember it the next time you budget... I've worked for many years mainly writing for commercials but also made quite a few documentaries. I think it is a part of the game.. But the best advice I think is to use your time with them, ask questions and listen to some tracks together. Like this? No? More like this? I think the sign of a bad director is if he/she only references personal favorites.. On the other hand I must admit that quite a few times my third try was better than the first.. Good luck!